Learn to Have A Blast Just by Yourself

These days it seems like every millennial woman is scared to the bones just by the idea of being alone. Coping with the pressure of career and relationships come with its own set of stress. More often than not, being away from family adds to the loneliness that most young women fail to even identify. People whose social media feed is a testimony to a vibrant social life are consciously or unconsciously looked upon as “life goals”.

But being alone need not necessarily mean being lonely. Being alone can be empowering. When you learn to spend time with yourself and genuinely enjoy it, you can come in touch with your own wants and goals, your strengths and insecurities. Being with people may or may not be exciting, it always comes with the risk of you not enjoying their company, but enjoying your own company is always a soul-enriching experience. You need to understand that you can be happy enough all by yourself. You do not need to depend upon friends or romantic partners to make you happy. It is just a choice that you make. You can find someone to hang out with very easily, but when you maintain high standards and allow only a few in your life, you are making the time spent with them that much better.

In order to be happy by yourself, you need to hold your opinion in high regard. It is okay if the friend you have opened up to does not exactly get what you are going through. You do not need everyone’s approval. You are much better off introspecting about your own problem. Sure, a change of perspective may be refreshing, but there is something very enriching about learning from your own mistakes and fixing your own problems. What’s more, you are becoming a more confident person one day at a time.

Enjoying your own company is not just about staying cooped up in a room. Go out to public places and observe people. You will learn a lot more about the world than you know right now. Go to parks, take a walk along the beach or watch a movie. Hit up a new food joint. It is incredible how many things you can observe about human behaviour. I have found myself introspecting a lot more after observing or talking to strangers while travelling alone.

Amidst the crazy rush of trying to “stay connected”, once in a while it is good to disconnect from the world and really find yourself.